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"Worries
typically follow such lines, a narrative to oneself that jumps from concern to concern and more often than not includes catastrophizing,
imagining some terrible tragedy. Worries are almost always expressed in
the mind's ear, not its eye - that is, in words, not images - a fact
that has significance for controlling worry." - Daniel Goleman - Author, Emotional Intelligence
To CATASTROPHIZE means to imagine the worst possible outcome of an event; to think about a situation or event as having a
catastrophic outcome. Catastrophes are momentous tragic events ranging from extreme misfortune to
"And there will be signs in sun and moon and stars, and on the earth distress of nations in perplexity because of the roaring of the sea and the waves, people fainting with fear and with foreboding of what is coming on the world. For the powers of the heavens will be shaken." (Luke 21:25-26, ESV)
By the way...there's no better time than the present to identify yourself with Jesus, to accept His forgiveness for your wrongs, and identify with Him as LORD of the universe and your LORD and Savior. (John 3:16-17)
How do we balance the facts with our fears?
How do we resume regular activity with an unseen virus in our midst? We know it is contracted disproportionately by African-Americans. We don't know where or when it will strike, but the CDC says that the fatality rate is between .2-.5% of the population. How do I as an African-American leader encourage my friends and parishioners of color to LIVE their lives? Though they are more than twice as likely as whites to be shot and killed by police, according to a Forbes Magazine article quoting statistics from the Washington Post:
the total number of US citizens shot and killed by police since January
1, 2015 is 4,728 people. 2,385 were Caucasian. 1,252 were
African-American (though we make up only 13.4% of the US population).
877 were Latino and 214 were from other groups.
African-Americans can be killed at a traffic stop, in the park, on a jog, or at
It's easy for any of us to get swept up in a tidal wave of anxiety. Anyone who's suffered abandonment, divorce, bankruptcy, abuse, racism, other isms, or PTSD may worry that it will happen again or to their kids. That millions of Black folks are simultaneously experiencing societal/personal trauma is devastating. My caution to myself and to those who read this blog is not to allow what's happened in the past, or to others around you to construct prison bars in your mind. Phil. 4:4-9 tells us that to ward off anxiety, the first characteristic for the things we should think about, (the story we tell ourselves)...is that it is TRUE...then honest, lovely, just, virtuous, praiseworthy and of good report. Just how true is what you're thinking?
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Tuesday, June 9, 2020
WEDNESDAY'S WORD - CATASTROPHIZING- Sadell Bradley 06/10/2020
Wednesday, June 3, 2020
WEDNESDAY'S WORD - LAMENT - Sadell Bradley - 6/3/2020
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"If
it were possible to cure evils by lamentation and to raise the dead
with tears, then gold would be a less valuable thing than weeping." -Sophocles
LAMENT is a passionate expression of grief or sorrow; of regret or disappointment; a complaint. The
Book of Lamentations in the Old Testament, was written by Jeremiah, who
is described as the weeping prophet. Throughout his writings, he grieved over the wickedness of the people,
their rebellion, and the judgment they had brought upon themselves.
Lamentations can be songs, poems, or a piece of music used to express these same deep feelings. I've had several friends reach out to see how
I'm doing after the murders of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Ahmaud
Arberry, and the subsequent unrest and response with even more deaths and injury. The words have sometimes escaped me.
My greatest disappointment is with the Church, which should be a light for the Kingdom of God, its statutes and values, in this darkness. The Apostle John said, "This is the
judgment, that the Light has come into the world, and men loved the
darkness rather than the Light, for their deeds were evil." (John 3:19) Jesus warned us to 'take heed, or "make certain that the light that is in you is not darkness." (Luke 11:35) Paul warned that "false apostles, and deceitful workers would masquerade as apostles of Christ, And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light. It is not surprising then, if his servants masquerade as servants of righteousness. Their end will correspond to their actions." (2
Cor. 11:13-15) My posture has been to pray, ask God for forgiveness and
repentance, to try to love everyone-even my enemies, and to speak
Kingdom Truth into chaos.
Still, this whole scenario is sad. I am
grieved by: the continued history of injustice, murder, and racism that
has plagued this generation and so many before it; the economic and
militaristic oligarchy (rule by a small group) that is rising; the
misuse of Christianity for political and personal gain; and the
segregation, conflict and division in what is supposed to be One Body in
Christ. Growing up, we used to sing a stirring song based on the
lamentation below:
It is of the LORD's mercies
that we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; great is thy faithfulness. The LORD is my
portion, saith my soul; therefore I will hope in Him. The LORD is good
unto them that wait for Him, to the soul that seeketh Him. It is good
that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the
LORD. (Lamentations 3:22-26)
Wednesday, May 27, 2020
WEDNESDAY'S WORD - ENTITLEMENT - 05/27/2020
"Sometimes
people take it for granted that they have success, especially nowadays when you have instant stardom. A lot of people feel entitlement and
nobody is entitled to anything." -Donny Osmond
For 5 weeks, NBA fans were treated to "The Last Dance" a fascinating documentary on the GOAT (Greatest Of All Time) player, Michael Jordan.
Jordan won 6 NBA Championships, 10 Scoring Titles, 5 MVP trophies, and a
number of other accolades in the '80s and '90s. We saw a driven competitor, a man with sporting excellence, revolutionize the way basketball is viewed around the world. The Jordan brand became a
marketing and economic machine that has made him a
billionaire and the most recognized athlete in history. This feat was all the more
remarkable for a dark-skinned Black man rising just 20 years after the
US Civil Rights legislation passed. In our current volatile racial climate, what Frank Sinatra said just might be true, "The best revenge is massive success."
Part of me wonders if some of what we're experiencing is backlash over the strength and splendor of Black men. Maybe we need more MJ's, who didn't get distracted by race or politics but chose to focus on becoming great and building an empire. Jordan had lots of flaws, but one intriguing opinion he shared about players of his time versus now is that he and his contemporaries had to work hard to earn salaries and endorsement deals. They had to win championships, gold medals,
and scoring titles - to PROVE their worth - BEFORE they were considered for millions of dollars in compensation. Players nowadays he said, are being paid 'for potential,' receiving millions of dollars and endorsements when 'they've done nothing yet.' Something to think about, isn't it? Times have changed.
Tuesday, May 19, 2020
WEDNESDAY'S WORD - METTLE - 05/20/2020 - Sadell Bradley
"As an actor, I'm always interested in my characters getting into trouble, because conflict is, you know, the great determiner of someone's mettle."
-Mary Wiseman
I've said before that I have never aspired to be a leader. Over the years I've tried to avoid it by giving GOD my 'reasons' (excuses). I'm not ready, single, married, not
qualified, a woman, too young, too old... any
argument to say no to or at least delay the next level of leading.
This might be an anomaly in a world where many seem to desire platforms.
Since the pandemic has made us all engage virtually, I've had
to face my fear of doing videos, over and
over again. It's super uncomfortable. God is also using inter-personal
conflicts; equipping and confronting leaders; facing myself and my
past; and navigating the turbulence of being an African-American female
clergywoman...to test and strengthen my METTLE - a person's ability to cope well with difficulties or to face a demanding situation in a spirited and resilient way.
There are a lot of spiritual, mental, and emotional ups and downs, but
God assures me that what I've been experiencing is preparing me for the
future He has in store.
It's a little comforting to know that I'm not alone in this struggle. Moses, Gideon, Saul, Esther, Ezekiel, Jeremiah, even Mary had questions as to why God was choosing them; how they could do what they were being asked with their glaring deficiencies and challenging circumstances; whether God would really be with them; and when He would finally show up. Some of them questioned and challenged the LORD, others hid in fear. The study above by Forbes.com in 2016 showed that about 40% of the population believes that people generally want to remain in the status quo versus reaching for something better. Why? because just to change oneself is hard without being a leader. Leadership is really difficult, it's often thankless, and it takes mettle. I guess that's why they say it's lonely at the top...or in the front.
Wednesday, May 13, 2020
WEDNESDAY'S WORD - LESSON- 05/13/2020 Sadell Bradley
"I have learned from personal experience that putting trust in God means there will be unanswered questions. That was a hard lesson for me because I naturally
want to understand everything...to know what's going on so I feel like
I'm in control." - Joyce Meyer
Failure is a lesson learned. Success is a lesson applied. I don't know who said this, but it sounds like something my mom, a 27-year elementary teaching veteran, would have told me. A LESSON is an amount of teaching given at one time; a thing learned or experienced by a student; an occurrence, example, or punishment that serves or should serve to warn or encourage; admonish or rebuke. The phrase 'to teach someone a lesson' means to punish or hurt someone as a deterrent. The phrase 'to learn one's lesson' means to acquire a greater understanding of the world through a particularly unpleasant or stressful experience.
This pandemic; changes to our church, work, and family life; politics;
and the Ahmaud Arberry shooting... are all offering up some pretty strong lessons. I wonder what we've learned?
How do you respond when God is teaching you a lesson through a circumstance or a relationship? with HUMILITY - a modest or low view of your own importance. Apostles Peter and James said, "God
Tuesday, May 5, 2020
WEDNESDAY'S WORD - PRESSURE - 05/06/2020 Sadell Bradley
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"When poor people get
involved in a long conflict, such as a strike or a civil rights drive,
and the pressure increases each day, there is a deep need for spiritual advice. Without it, we see families crumble, leadership weaken, and hard
workers grow tired." - Cesar Chavez
"Everything negative - pressure, challenges - is all an opportunity for me to rise."- Kobe Bryant I
was listening to the PBS news show Amanpour & Co., featuring
economic and healthcare experts like Dr. David Nott, a Welsh trauma
surgeon who has served for 23 years taking unpaid leaves in war-torn
zones like Syria. Dr. Nott is currently battling the coronavirus in
London. He stated that in traumatic situations like
We Americans have been acculturated not just to deny that we're under pressure, but to disparage those vulnerable and transparent enough to admit it. We have been told to suck it up, to never let 'them'
see you sweat. I find it interesting that the Apostle Paul faced
ridicule, imprisonment, poisonous snake bites, was shipwrecked, and
threatened with death...but did not shy away from stating emphatically
and specifically, that he was under pressure:
8We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about the troubles we experienced in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired of life itself. 9Indeed, we felt we had received the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. 10He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us again. On him, we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us, 11as you help us by your prayers.
Then many will give thanks on our behalf for the gracious favor
granted us in answer to the prayers of many. (2 Corinthians 1:8-10, NIV)
Everyone's capacity under pressure is different. That's why it's important for us to be kind to ourselves and to one another, despite how frustrated we
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Wednesday, April 29, 2020
WEDNESDAY'S WORD - PRESCIENCE - Sadell Bradley -4/29/2020
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"The prescience of the
founding fathers continues to astonish me. They were freedom fighters.
They made America. They gave us this magical country. They were also slave owners - which is confusing to their legacy. How could such
brilliant men have only secured freedom for themselves, but not their
wives or their slaves?" - Andy Dunn - American Businessman
PRESCIENCE (pronounced 'preSHeans) is the fact of knowing something before it takes place or exists; foreknowledge. Some people would pronounce it 'pre-science' which is actually a good way to think about this word. Science is the intellectual and practical activity that studies, observes, and experiments with the structure or behavior of someone or something that exists. Prescience is the ability to know about something BEFORE it exists and can be studied. It is a divine element found in the spiritual gift of prophecy.
Romans 8:28 is a very familiar passage of Scripture. Before that verse, Paul speaks about our adoption as sons and daughters of God the Father. He discusses the fact that the earth is groaning and experiencing labor pains waiting for the revealing of the Sons of God. Did you know that world is waiting for us to show
Prescience, this idea of God 'knowing us beforehand,' is best explained by the prophet's call in Jeremiah 1:5. "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you; I ordained you a prophet to the nations" God's foreknowledge applies both to people and to situations.
Have you experienced the phenomenon of knowing what someone will do or say without interfering with their right or choice to do or say it, or knowing that something will take place
without meddling in the inevitable train of events? I have. Theologian Gleason Archer describes foreknowledge as, "God pre-knowing all choices - and doing so without predetermining
(requiring) them." It is comforting to know that I am a person whom God knew beforehand, in a situation that God knew about beforehand. The circumstance might not feel good right now, but He is working everything together for my good because He loves me!
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Tuesday, April 21, 2020
WEDNESDAY'S WORD - BAND-AID -Sadell Bradley - 04/22/2020
"Whether it's mending a
failing company, fighting corruption, tackling disease, or rebuilding a
marriage, the hardest problems defy just add-water remedies. Indeed,
slapping on a Band-Aid when surgery is needed usually just makes things
worse." -Carl Honore - Canadian Journalist
I'm a solution-oriented person. I don't like to put Band-Aids on heart surgery. That
just leaves space for greater problems to resurface. Are we willing to
see beyond the superficial and get to the root of knotty problems and
address them the hard way? Sometimes counseling is necessary when we're blocked and can't go deep enough or haven't had sufficient life experience to come to peace with our past or handle our present.
Most of us didn't grow up learning how to handle finances. It's hard to
go cold turkey on spending or incorporate the discipline necessary to
avoid debt, or save enough for emergencies. We haven't learned how to do the hard work now to not suffer consequences later. Yes, as a pastor, I want to help people; to give them enough food for days/weeks. Some don't comprehend that I really want to offer folks a way out of negative cycles, if people are willing to take it. That's why our approaches address root causes and not just symptoms.
The next waves of the effects of this pandemic, as we begin to re-enter society, are going to be in areas like personal finance/economics, devastated relationships, educational disparities, and mental-health (grief,
depression, PTSD, anxiety, fear). Some will try to seize this moment of crisis and use it for their own gain. The virus might surge again. The recovery may take years for some. We'll need wisdom, patience, and a plan. In cities across the Nation, pastoral leaders will not just be focused on their churches, but their Cities. Like Jeremiah, we'll, "seek
the peace (prosperity/welfare) of the city where I have caused you to
be carried away captive, and pray to the LORD for it; for in its peace
you will have peace." (Jer. 29:7) Let's pray for more than Band-Aids; let's ask God for solutions.
Wednesday, April 15, 2020
WEDNESDAY'S WORD - OVERAWED - 4/15/2020 -Sadell Bradley
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"We are sometimes so overawed by flamboyance and machismo that we forget to ask ourselves how we treat others." -Vikrant Massey - Indian Actor
Being in quarantine leaves a lot of time for prayer and self-reflection. Having to move your church's launch team from a planned Easter Sunday opening in a new facility to online platforms within a matter of days is daunting. We have less of everything: time, planning, personnel, money and experience. How we can offer a quality worship experience? I HATE
video and the LORD was also asking me to sing. Though I love to sing, it has always had emotional ups and downs when I have to do it publicly,
as I'm definitely not the best at it. As I was praying, the Holy Spirit
spoke, "You cannot be intimidated."
As an African-American woman, it's important not to be intimidated in rooms.
In my 20's four men from different generations called me intimidating for four different reasons: because of my education, my looks, my spirituality, and my boldness to speak up without fear. I had to realize that because they perceived me as a strong woman, they were intimidated...even if I was not intimidating. I looked up the definition of intimidated and it said to frighten or OVERAWE someone. I'd never heard the word OVERAWE - to
restrain or subdue by awe (reverential respect mixed fear or wonder);
to impress someone so much that they become silent or inhibited.
I realized I have often been intimidated and overawed. I've been restrained
The
obvious Biblical reference is how the spies of the children of Israel went into the land of promise and brought back a bad report. They said their enemies were huge and their cities were strong and fortified, "We even saw giants there, the descendants of Anak. Next to them, we felt like grasshoppers, and that's what they thought, too!" (Numbers 13:33) The way they assessed their situation, their adversaries and their own view of themselves, brought the people to tears.
They lost heart because of the intimidation and overawe of their leaders. These overawed spies, Moses, and most of the Israelites did not enter into what God had promised a result. That's why the Holy
Spirit is saying, "You cannot be intimidated," or overawed."
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Wednesday, April 8, 2020
WEDNESDAY'S WORD - SANITY - Sadell Bradley 04/08/2020
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"I maintain my sanity by keeping my distance." -Luis Miguel -Mexican Musician
After
several weeks of quarantine and negative news and social media, even the most stable of us are checking our SANITY - sound mental health; the ability to think and behave in a normal and rational manner. For
some, weeks in the house with your family might seem to be driving you
INSANE - a state of mind that prevents normal perception, behavior, or social interaction; a state of extreme annoyance or distraction. We're even seeing insane actions and policies that are extremely foolish,
irrational and illogical.
Insanity comes from anxiety, while sanity corresponds with the absence of fear.
In 1 Samuel 21, David is fleeing from his father-in-law Saul, who is trying to kill him. He runs to Ahimelech the priest and asks for bread.
He gives
Paul told his protege
Timothy to stir up the gift of God within him because God has not given
us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love
Below is a recent interview I did with therapist Pastor Cindy Robertson, MSW, LISW entitled, Keeping Your Mind
- preserving your mental health during this crisis. Please view and share with anyone who might need practical ways to decrease stress,
foster better relationships with family while being confined, or handle feelings of isolation, anxiety or grief. Blessings to you all!
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