In prayer I was cautioned by the LORD to avoid zero-sum thinking. ZERO-SUM is a game-theory term used by people who study how games are played and won. ZERO-SUM is a situation in which whatever is gained by one side is lost by the other. If you get an advantage, I lose one, therefore the sum of the game is zero. This kind of thinking eliminates any possibility that we both could win and the sum be two or even more. As the graphic to the left shows; we talk about win/win propositions, but we generally act in win/lose ways, pitting ourselves against one another. If you win, that must automatically mean that I lose. So I can't celebrate when good things happen to you because I believe that in some way takes away from the possibility of something good happening for me. And when good things happen to me, I must hoard them to ensure you don't get a chance to share in my blessings. The Apostle Paul wrote, "Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep." (Rom 12:15) We are generally ok with the weeping part...misery loves company...but at times we find it difficult to be happy for the advancement of others—particularly in areas where we've failed, longed to excel, or where others might be further along than we are. It can be a bitter pill when 'their gain' emotionally equates to 'our loss.' This is real talk. Zero-sum thinking is at the root of all kinds of societal and relational divisions like racism, sexism, and classism. It causes sibling rivalry (if mom and dad love or give attention/affection to you, I can't get any). Zero-sum thinking brings envy, jealousy, comparison, and competition into marriages, workplaces, and even churches. It is black or white, and all or nothing. This perspective leaves no room for grey nuances or extenuating circumstances. It pits us against each other, causes all parties to lose, and shows we really do not love.
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